John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John Gottman, Ph.D., is an expert on marriage stability and predicting divorce. For 40 years, he has studied the relationships of thousands of couples over extended periods of time. Based on this research, after observing a couple interact -- by discussing an ongoing disagreement -- for just a few minutes, he can predict with 91% accuracy whether their marriage is likely to end in divorce. In this book, he and Nan Silver identify the various clues that a marriage is in trouble. They then identify the traits that couples in successful relationships model. From these observations, Gottman and Silver distill seven principles, posed as directives really, that couples can use to strengthen their friendship and to cope with conflicts. For each principle, the book contains useful exercises that, if performed together, can serve only to deepen a couple's connection. We highly recommend that couples read this book together.